Do you ever hear people talking about you in public but just look away and ignore it assuming it could be not worth arguing about?
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Its not very good to argue in public, sometimes people mistake someone for someone else and have to ignore that too, sometimes people may seem like as if talking about you but it could be that ther'e talking to someone else instead and then we have to just look away.
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I can't say this happens to me, or that I notice it! However if I was in the situation I would rise above it and ignore them, as if it is negative then they aren't worth it! I certainly wouldn't lower myself to a public argument! But as I say this has never happened to me or I just haven't noticed it!
Of course you need to make sure they are talking about you first, and its hard to hear whispering from a distance anyway, but if they are looking at you and laughing I would make sure you are not wearing something odd or you have not forgotten to change? Anyway without asking them its pretty difficult to know what it might be - I would certainly be curious - I would go across and ask if I liked the look of them? Some friendly relationships can develop that way?
If I wanted advice on staying away from arguments, sunflower, you are the last person I would ask!
Its best to stay away from arguements, have to really make sure that ther'e not really talking about me 1st then answer, why would one shout for no reason and be shouted at or called insane for. It would be a stupid sitution. There are people in the world that do not want to hear good things or bad things about certain people and thats how people argue and lie about anyone and thats divious and harrassing. Some gossips just go round and round, some people say a question and we don't answer it but people still assume they got answer by looking at our facial expressions but we could be looking at other things or talking to people about other things instead thats how certain people are so pathetic,some people go round saying lies about one another, others copy the same lies but don't even know what the real reason is for that, i would not do that because its insane and a daft idea, whats the use of calling someone bad too when you don't even know them too, adults should know more better. so i can't be insane then, or a daft idiot.
Hello miss sunflower I agree that people should not bear false witness against you. If you don't do it to them then others should not do it to you either. But if they do you should stand up for yourself, that is character assassination and you should confront them and ask them to prove what they are saying about you.
Why have you asked this?
well it would ave something to do with money if they were saying nasty things about you cause you mite have to pay a soliter for the likes of slander , my sister had to do it on a person who was slaging her of to other people
Hi krlll08 , good point and yes if the comments spoken caused actual defamation,financial loss and suffering the gossip mongerer could be sued for damages.
Like many of your 'questions' this has no relevance to the topic of this site. This site is for money related issues, not moral dilemmas or lifestyle choices!
This is one of those secret philosophies in life that we can learn and be a better person for it. What people think or say about you has no relevance to your higher being. You can so easily be the 'bigger person' by rising above all such chitter chatter and just get on with your life and what makes you happy.
I agree with you Snoopy!
Thank you Instinct! Just one of those little 'off the cuff' things that I dream up over a crumble cream and a cup to Typhoo One-Cup!
I think I would try and cultivate a calm exterior and also practice taking a deep breath and staying inwardly calm and rational in these situations. I would not take it personally, it may not be about you, and most people who display behaviour like that in public maybe need to grow up a little yet so doon't spend too much time worrying about it.
Hi Sunflower
I have been subjected to racial comments by people who have simply walked past me on the street and I have always let it go because honestly they are the ones with the problem, not me!
I'm not sure I would be so forgiving if they were directed at my children though.
Good for you, I agree it is often the best approach
I agree good for you, I wonder how they would feel it was the other way round.
For every one there are 100's who do not think this way.
You're right, Vettriano, it IS them who have the problem! And you are setting a very good example to your children. Good for you!
The only time I would be upset by someone talking about me is if it was someone I actually care about - friend or family. In the big scheme of things anybody else's opinion of you does not really matter, unless of course you are doing things to hurt people. I have walked in on people talking about me. I have a senior position at work so you do have to get used to it. The boss will never be liked by everybody. In a way you could take this as flattering because you are so interesting that people want to talk about you.
I will like people to talk about me ask much as they like, because I know if they stop talking about me that's means its like I was just born into this world and die without anyone knowing me.
There you go benrero ... a refreshing and innovative look at the world around you! I like that .... people only talk about you 'if you are worth it' ...... Wow! I can die a happy bunny now .....
well just think i pity them,they lead such sad empty lives my gran used to say while theyre talking about me theyre leaving everyone else alone she didnt give 2 shits quite literally! theyre probably jealous anyway
Wow, I just realised how old this thread was when I saw a post by the legendary Donk!
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well there is 1 good thing if people are talking about you you are centre of someones convertion because tomorrow they will be talking about something or someone else lol thats what i always think and if they cant say anything to your face then they are the people with sad dreary lives, and if i heard people talking about me i would go up to them and say can i join in seen as its me you are on about lol