Help! What should I buy for a couple who have everything?

I had a similar problem when my brother got married earlier this year as he and his partner already had a home together. However, they still did do the traditional wedding list thing but through Amazon and family and friends were able to look at the items they had listed that they would like as presents. I thought it was a really good idea and beats doing a similar thing at Debenhams or John Lewis for example. It might be worth suggesting to your friend if she hasn't already set up something similar. At least this way you know you are getting something that they really want. Another idea that was discussed a couple of months ago was making up a hamper filled with things that you know they enjoy as a couple. Do they have any particular interests or hobbies that they share? You could then look for things that fit into this category and make something up that is individual to them.

Friends of mine that got married recently after many years together said that no presents were expected, but that if guests felt that they wanted to so do, they would be delighted if they would donate to the couples favourite charity either directly or by putting an envelope (anonymously if wished) in a box provided at the venue. Nice idea I thought. A gift such as champagne and chocolates usually goes down well or maybe a basket with some special foodstuffs such as a hand-made pasta and a jar of upmarket sauce plus an Italian style teatowel or wine to go with it depending on what your budget allows. Don't feel pressured to overspend - it really is the thought that counts!

This is becoming an increasingly common dilemma, how about a case of decent, but out of the ordinary, wine? Or a bottle of rare whisky?

Or a rose bush with a suitable name for the garden?

How about something like theatre tickets/vouchers or an 'experience' - I think Lastminute.com are doing a 75% off sale on experience days this week so you might find a bargain.

Alternatively, how about a charity gift.

One of my friends bought another friend a charity gift goat & named it after them - it went down really well although I can imagine this type of thing won't be to everyone's liking.

My first port of call would be to check if they have a wedding list somewhere, then you know you'll get them something they want (or think they want).

Something to celebrate the fact that they are now Mr and Mrs. I gave a friend a spatula with Mr & Mrs Portou engraved on it. They loved it as it was unusual. Look for laser engraved stuff on ebay. I have a laser cutter at work and can engrave glass vases, anything wooden, chopping boards, spoons, spatulas, photoframes etc. All with names, dates, horseshoes etc.

Or you could do the same idea but with embroidery, towels are the obvious, but tea towels, a cushion or something would work well.

Hope you find something.

How about planting a pair of trees for them - perhaps in a park local to them? I'm currently having that done because the council has a duty of care to the tree, so will look after it (if we move house I can't guarentee what will happen to the trees in our garden) for the rest of its life. The Woodland trust and various other organisations offer this service too. We need more trees (see http://www.barnet.gov.uk/tree-management for reasons why) and doing something to help the environment they live in is a lovely symbol, and practical.

Alternately, something personal - like painting some pottery, or making them a memory book with great photos of your history as friends in - that you have to take time over can mean far more than something shiny and expensive.

How about something really unusual like naming a star? There are a number of websites that offer something like that starting from around £25 eg starlistings.co.uk

Plants are always a nice gift, what about an Orchid, they come in lovely colours, or as others have suggested Roses or Trees, would be appreciated.

Book a riding lesson for them. They'll have a good laugh and maybe a hobby for life!

Why don`t you pay for them to go out and have a meal somewhere. If they have eveything, it`s pointless buying anything. I did it once and chose a decent restaurant, looked at the menu and decided what I could afford. I then arranged with the restaurant, who were really helpful, they gave me a card with the amount on to give them. It was really appreciated because it was different.

depending on your budget if its a hundred + hot air balloning, or an experience day for the pair of them as that is different and a lovely treat! lastminute.com are doing a 25% discount